Kerry McAvoy

S2 EP10: Is Codependency a Bad Word? Should it be Used to Describe Narcissistic Abuse Victims?

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss codependency vs. Super Traits, what’s the difference, and why we differ in how we feel about each of the terms. And the self-help tip is on how to create a list of top lines for yourself. Repeat After Me by Claudia Black Codependent No More by Melody…

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S2 EP9: Why do I love my abuser? The power of a trauma bond explained

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara give an intimate look at the emotional power of a trauma bond. How trauma bonds create mental confusion and psychological dependence on the abuser. And the self-help tip is on the importance of identifying and protecting non-negotiable boundaries. Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse season 1, episode 58: Why…

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S2 EP8: What’s best for the kids, leaving or staying in a toxic relationship?

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss co-parenting challenges when you have a toxic ex. How do you stay regulated when kids are involved, and what do you do when the kids are being used as pawns? Today’s self-help tip is learning to talk to yourself as if you were a friend. Breaking Free…

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S2 EP7: Can we still be friends? How to handle the toxic post-split love bomb request

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss why your toxic ex might come back and try to lovebomb you after the break-up through, what may seem like, innocent requests of friendship. We agree that while their offer may seem tantalizing, DON’T do it! Today’s self-help tip is a different way to approach communicating with…

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S2 EP6: Do I really need to go no contact with my narcissistic ex?

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss following through with limited contact or no contact after a break-up. What is limited vs. no contact? How long should you do it for? And WHY should you do it? Today’s self-help tip is one way to self-soothe during reactive abuse. Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok,…

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S2 EP5: What is financial abuse, and have you been a victim of it?

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss financial abuse. When researchers analyzed abusive relationships, they found over 99% of victims were also financially abused. Can you be abused financially? We’re going to identify the signs you might be financially abused as well as some suggestions on how to overcome it. Today’s self-help tip is…

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S2 EP 4: What to do when your narcissistically abusive ex tries to come back

S2 EP 3: What Is “Narcissistic Abuse?” How Is It Different from Abuse? Is It Being Overused?

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss the use of narcissistic abuse. It’s become a very popular topic on social media. Is it being overused? Then in the Self-Help Tip for today, we’ll share how to handle a common argument tactic like DARVO. Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook: Kerry’s…

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S2 EP 2: As a survivor of abuse, are you setting realistic goals for yourself in 2023?

In this week’s episode, Kerry and Tara discuss setting realistic goals in 2023 and the Self-Help Tip is a simple strategy on how to hold better boundaries. Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook: Kerry’s accounts & Tara’s accounts Sign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are…

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S2 EP 1: Big changes for the new year! Let’s make it one of wholeness & health

Welcome back to a new season! I’m being joined with a co-host, Tara Blair Ball, author & relationship coach and kicking off a new self-help tip segment. Follow Kerry and Tara on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook: Kerry’s accounts & Tara’s accounts Sign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are…

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